… So Listen Up!

We're often asked what the policy is about bringing outsiders to Regular Guys meetings and events. Officially, everything we do is considered "members only". Other groups in town (no names, please) allow guests to attend their events (usually for a higher admission price) because when you get down to it, they're meat-market oriented. They want as many people at their events as possible. It makes them look good and they can brag about how many men show up. They're trying to reach as broad an audience as possible - which is not our concern.

Regular Guys is aimed at a specific demographic within the community: masculine guys, guys who like to do "guy stuff", guys who aren't interested in the usual, stereotypical gay activities. So obviously we don't want outsiders wandering in who don't know what we're about, or who are going to argue with us about our concept, our name, etc. But that doesn't mean members can't bring a guest to certain events. Here's the deal:

Members can bring a guest to any event that doesn't have a preset limit on the number of attendees. Hikes, movie nights, Martuni's/Sports Bar evenings, Football/Batting Cages, most events where you can "just show up". We would prefer that if you bring a friend along, that he be Regular Guy material, so to speak - someone who identifies with the concept (direct him to our website), and who might be interested in joining (rather than just looking for a date). And Big Chris would probably add: "Does he play softball?" We're trying to recruit active guys who will participate in our core events. You can also bring a guest to the monthly meeting if he comes early for the New Member Orientation.

Events that do have an attendance limit are strictly for members. Events that have this sort of limit include dinners or anything where a reservation has been made or a set number of tickets have been purchased (ballgames, theater, rafting). The idea is that we don't want an outsider taking a space away from a member - particularly if that outsider is someone we'll never see again. We were burned a few times in the early years over this issue, and we learned from the experience. To know for sure, check the Evite (if there is one) or ask the event organizer.

Recruiting new RGs. We have had a lot more guys bringing friends, roommates, friends of roommates, and roommates of friends to the group recently. And that's great. Again, we ask that you bring guys who fit the profile, understand the concept and who are genuinely interested in joining.